ENJOYING SADNESS.. YEAH, WE ARE THAT CRAZY!

When a person with whom you share a beautiful relationship leaves you, does your heart break a little? Perhaps a small heart break is an understatement, you must have felt like dying. You become a living human body with a dead soul. You curse the God and ask, 'Why me?' Well I think, we ask this question whenever we face an adverse condition. Your friend stood first but you failed, everyone is in a relationship except you, everyone is living a happy, healthy life while you are suffering from cancer and the list can go on and on but it will end in only one question, 'Why me? What did I do to deserve this?' 
Now let us change the situation a bit, you passed while your friend failed, you have parents and there are kids out there who live in orphanages, you are reading my post in your mobile/laptop while someone of your age is perhaps begging on the street; now can you ask the same question,'Why me? What did I do to deserve this?' I am sure the answer is no. 
Did you get my point? I can relate to everything that I am sharing with you because I have gone through this situation. Many of you must have also gone through it. Crying, weeping, cursing, feeling depressed, the feeling of loneliness is quite a normal human behaviour when we face an unhappy situation. But what's the fun of behaving in a normal manner? When we ask for extraordinary things, when we see a shooting star, why we are hoping to settle for a life that will offer us ordinary happiness? We should try to be gratefup even for the hostile condition. Who likes to watch a movie that has no spice in it? Our life is just like a movie, we don't know what will be the ending because God is a talented scriptwriter, he rarely goes for a predictable ending. When we don't know about the ending that we will get, the only thing that we can do is to enjoy the moments. We can enjoy beautiful moments even when we are sad, magical moments are there, you need to find it. The truth is when you are doing nothing except for gaining sympathy for yourself, you will miss the happiness that is hidden somewhere in the sadness that you are suffering from.Self-pity can lead to nothing.

We don't want our pain and sadness to last forever but we want the happiness, the love and all the positive things to last forever. Aren't we behaving like a selfish person here? We should understand that happiness and sadness follow a certain cycle because too much of everything is bad. We don't need to pray for happiness to become a constant phase of our life because in reality, we don't need it. Plus change is the only constant thing in the world. The happiness that you are experiencing now, can fly away any second. You are perhaps thinking that I am asking you to become a pessimist. But that is not the case, I am asking you to prepare for the worst, so that the fear of having to face that worst scenario makes you acknowledge the blessing that has been showered on you. Enjoy and realize the beauty of every moment. You can't afford to lose the little beautiful moments that can be seen everyday. Isn't opening your eyes in the morning, a beautiful thing to rejoice?

Nothing last forever, not even life. So, the next time when you sit in the dark room weeping, put a happy face by thinking about all the blessing that you have received. We get the chance to live our life for once, we should be responsible enough to keep ourselves happy. Believe me when I say that you don't need a happiness that last forever, you need a life with many ups and downs. The world might crave for stability, but you know the secret. You are a hero who doesn't deserve a monotonous life. So, cheer up when the sun is going down, because you have the stars, cheer up when you have no stars because the sun can rise at any moment now. The bright day is beautiful and the silent night is also beautiful. 

WHERE HAS THE HAPPINESS GONE?

Problem 1: How to score good marks?

Problem 2: How to become popular?

Problem 3: How to get a job?

Problem 4: How to get a promotion?

Problem 5: How to save money for children?

Problem 6: How to get the love of life?

Problem 7, Problem 8, Problem 9, Problem 10..........

And the list goes on to infinity.

In midst of all the problems, we have forgotten how to remain happy. I don't even remember when the last time I have laughed freely and enjoyed my life without caring about anything. I have seen people laugh and smile but I have never seen that satisfaction of happiness in the life of people. Yesterday, with a close friend of mine, I was enjoying the chilling cold of Delhi's winter in C.P.

'So this is your Nexus?' I said smiling while examining the phone.

'Yeah. Show me your phone.' He said.

I handed him my phone and started playing Subway Surfer in his phone, as my average phone couldn't run the game smoothly.

'Your phone is good but it's slow' He said.

'Yeah, Yeah... I know. I need to get a new phone.' I said, still playing the game.

I hit the train and the game was over. He laughed and I laughed along with him. I accused him of distracting me. I handed him his phone back and started watching the crowd, which mostly consisted of couples. Right, in front of me, I saw a small family who was trying to sell balloons. The small kid of the family was around 5-6 years and he was playing with one of the balloons. He was laughing and smiling while he threw the balloon in the air. He was laughing and smiling while he touched the balloon. He was repeating the process again and again.  I missed such a laugh in my life and in the life of the people who surrounded me. I noticed that the kid didn't wear a sweater. In fact, he was playing bare feet. But did such things kept the small kid from enjoying his life? The answer is No.

I thought about his future. Will the carefree child exist in the near future? Deep in my heart, the answer that I got was No. I distracted myself from the thought and simply watched him burst the balloon. He smiled after looking at us and went to his mother. Soon, he engaged himself into another play.

We need a reason to be happy. Perhaps, that's why the amount of the smile that we pass is less than the amount of tears that we have shed. Let's start smiling in the small wonderful things that we do and see.  :)